What is happiness? For most people, it is the once-in-a-blue-moon moment when people unwind, break free from their conventional behaviors and forgetting the things that cause them stress and frustrations. In every vacation and celebration, happiness is always expected, that happiness that takes in the form of merry, laughter, and getting crazy. For others, happiness is that moment of obtaining something that one has worked for in a very long time. A reward, an award, a token of gratitude, a restoration of relationships, and a removal of a certain problem – all these are formal, more ideal forms of happiness.
Most scholars define happiness as the state of mind that tells the whole persona that he or she is happy and so all of his being feels so. Well, if happiness is indeed in the mind and the mind can actually be controlled, then, how can one find it difficult to feel happy when he or she is in the midst of loss? Why do most people feel depressed and frustrated most of the time than feel happy? Isn’t it ironic?
One can simply say that they choose to do so. When they are frustrated, they choose to be. And when they are joyful, they also choose to be one. If things are only as simple and as instant as choosing, everyone should have easy access to happiness, right? But these are not normally what is happening. In the real sense, happiness is more than the superficial concept of the state of mind. The state can only appear when the mind is ready to accept what it wants to be. When a person has been immersed with chances of being frustrated for a very, very long time, his or her mind has been conditioned into that state which makes him or her easily frustrated and discouraged than being easily happy and positive.
The key is that happiness is a habit.
It does not come in an instant just like what is happening during parties and celebrations. It does not last longer just like the moment when one receives the highest honor in graduation and other rewarding ceremonies. Happiness is a practice. Even when one does not receive anything, he can still be happy. And this happiness brings a lot of other good benefits especially in one’s health. So how can one form the habit of happiness? Well, one way to start forming one is to do the following things EVERYDAY.
1. Get your own symbol of happiness
One must assign something – either an object or a person – that when he came to see or to touch, he can change his state into contentment and gratitude.
2. Count the blessings
In every situation, be it good or bad, one must count all the blessings and good fortune he has received in the past so that he can get encouragement that with the young age and incapable mind that he has before, he was able to reach things, how much more at the present when he has gained more experiences?
3. Remember at sunrise
Before one does anything as he wakes up in the morning, let him have a motivational line to recite to himself. At least, when he can’t do anything great in the big picture, he still can do exceptionally well in the matters he’ll be facing for the single day.
4. Find reasons, or passions, to be happy.
This can be someone’s goal. Or someone’s idol. Or someone’s favorite sport or favorite pastime. Or someone’s beloved. And the best of all, someone’s passion for something – painting, cooking, singing, writing, dancing, etc.
5. Bring happiness to others
And this is the most effective. Practice making others happy in one’s own little way. It doesn’t have to be something extravagant that aims for others’ fluttery. Let one help according to what one is capable of. Whether others acknowledge it or not, the important thing is that you drive away the feeling of guilt and incapability which are the root of all destructive state of life.